Letting Go of the Rice: How My Darkest Days Built a Blueprint for Radical Inclusion

For eight long, suffocating years—from 2012 until 2020—I wasn't truly living; I was merely surviving. To the outside world, to my colleagues, and even to my friends, I wore the impeccable mask of a buoyant, capable, and driven academic. But behind closed doors, I was being devoured by an unrelenting pressure. I was suffocating under the crushing weight of severe anxiety and a crippling depression that I hid from almost everyone. There were days, stretching into weeks, shrouded in such intense darkness that I desperately wanted it all to end.

Today, however, I am no longer just surviving. I am thriving, and I am helping others do the same.

My journey from a psychological breaking point to becoming a national advocate for neurodivergent learners is a testament to a profound truth: our deepest vulnerabilities, once understood and supported, can become our greatest, most transformative strengths. This is the story of how an educational system that almost broke me eventually became the very landscape I am now helping to rebuild—one where technology, empathy, and systemic accessibility allow everyone to thrive.

The Invisible Friction of Education

To understand how my mental health deteriorated so completely, you have to understand the profound, invisible friction I experienced in higher education.

As an undergraduate ecology student, I possessed a relentless, almost punishing work ethic. Yet, the system relied heavily on summative assessments—timed essays written under incredibly strict exam conditions. I would spend hours on independent revision, approach lectures with fierce assertiveness, and meticulously plan my essay structures. I even shared my revision timetable with a peer who was notorious for leaving assignments until the absolute night before the deadline.

In a module on British flora, my absolute favourite topic, I spent days researching and structuring my coursework. My peer didn't even look at the prompt until the final evening. When the results were released, they scored several grades higher than I did.

It was a devastating blow to my foundational self-esteem. In exams, I would spend the first ten minutes frantically breaking down the question, only to find my working memory failing me. I’d miss vital points, remember them when it was too late, and try to awkwardly cram them in, ruining the structure of my essays. I began to question my own worth, wondering if I was simply unintelligent. I was tragically oblivious to the fact that my performance was being severely impeded by undiagnosed neurodivergence. It’s a depressingly common story; according to the British Dyslexia Association, many adults go undiagnosed for decades, internalising their struggles as personal failings rather than recognising them as a neurological difference.

The Monkey Trap of Perfectionism

This glaring disproportion between my immense effort and mediocre grades bred a toxic, all-consuming level of perfectionism. I approached assignments hoping that sheer force of will and an unforgiving standard of flawlessness could bridge the gap.

Perfectionism is a vicious double-edged sword. On one hand, it motivates us; on the other, it makes us despair, doubt ourselves, and ultimately self-sabotage. In my experience, it didn't yield the academic results I craved—it just eroded my self-esteem and fuelled crippling procrastination.

If you research perfectionism, you’ll often be directed to Robert Pirsig’s brilliant novel, *Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance*, where he describes the "old South Indian Monkey Trap." The trap consists of a hollowed-out coconut chained to a stake, containing a small handful of sweet rice. The monkey reaches its hand in, grabs the rice, and forms a clenched fist—which is then too large to fit back through the hole. Tempted by the prize, the monkey is trapped. It cannot see that its own rigid refusal to let go of the rice is the very thing keeping it imprisoned.

For years, I was that monkey. We rigidly hold on to an impossible standard of performance, failing to realise that our own clenched fist is the sole source of our suffering.

Descending into the Abyss

This volatile combination of undiagnosed specific learning difficulties and relentless perfectionism reached a boiling point in 2012. My life became violently consumed by writing my PhD thesis on Peatland Biogeochemical Cycling. I was constantly chasing looming publication deadlines, and when my scholarship money ran out and a long-term relationship broke down, I spiralled into a black hole.

I didn’t sleep for three whole days, obsessively fixated on work. Every second spent not working filled me with suffocating guilt. Predictably, my productivity plummeted due to sleep deprivation, worsening the anxiety in a terrifying feedback loop. A perceptive friend thankfully intervened, dragging me out for food. With medical help and a three-month extension, I barely scraped through and submitted my thesis.

But a temporary reprieve isn't a cure. Nine months later, having returned from an intensive research trip in Canada, I was given three months to complete a terrifying list of thesis revisions and told to write up my research for Nature—the most demanding journal in the scientific world.

I was paralysed. I felt entirely alone, consumed by suffocating negativity and a hollow feeling of absolute self-worthlessness. In my despair, I lost all rational thought, mixing heavy drinking with sleeping medication despite severe medical warnings. My mind was entirely shrouded in dark, pervasive thoughts of ending myself. It reminds me of reports from mental health charities like Student Minds, which regularly highlight that a staggering number of postgraduate researchers experience profound psychological distress—we are clearly not alone in this, even when it feels like we are.

The Diagnostic Dawn

The ultimate turning point occurred purely by chance. After submitting a lengthy written assignment, my tutor noticed unusual grammatical anomalies and recommended a formal educational screening.

In March 2013, at the age of 28, I was officially assessed at the Miles Dyslexia Centre. The results finally named the ghosts that had haunted my academic life. While I possessed high levels of underlying general cognitive ability, I exhibited distinct, severe traits of both dyslexia and dyspraxia.

The concrete data was staggering, yet deeply validating:

 * My working memory fell brutally in the 18th percentile.

 * My free writing speed was a laboured 18 words per minute (well below the expected average of 25 to 30).

 * Under timed pressure, my writing clarity decreased significantly, characterised by word omissions and deteriorating handwriting.

Rather than feeling defeated, receiving that piece of paper was a profound, overwhelming relief. It completely revolutionised my view of academic learning. I was finally able to forgive myself and accept that literacy-based tasks simply required a monumental output of cognitive energy for me.

Reframing the Ecosystem: The Cognitive Marathon

A diagnosis doesn't instantly heal a battered nervous system. It took years of gradual, painful work to break free. Discovering running and parkrun became my lifelines for physically processing stress, and by leaning on a strong network of friends and family, I finally broke free of the depressive cycle in 2020.

I made the life-saving decision to walk away from my prestigious scientific career. I rebuilt my identity, completed my teacher training, and became a teacher at Newfriars College in Stoke-on-Trent, a specialist post-16 SEND (Special Educational Needs and Disabilities) setting.

As a neurodivergent teacher, I intimately understand the "cognitive marathon" of education. Across SEND education, there is a recognised tension between delivering deeply human teaching and the heavy administrative demands of evidencing impact. In dynamic environments, pausing to type out detailed observations introduces massive, exhausting barriers—especially for neurodivergent staff.

Humanising Education with Contextualised AI

To tame this "SEND Admin Beast" and prevent the kind of burnout that almost cost me my life, I developed a pioneering workflow known as Contextualised Speech-to-Structured-Text AI (CSST-AI).

 * The Process: By combining simple wireless microphones, speech-to-text dictation, and carefully designed AI prompts, our staff capture spoken, in-the-moment feedback in real time.

 * The Output: This raw feedback—full of "ums" and tangents—is refined by the AI into clear, structured evidence that aligns perfectly to a learner's specific targets.

 * The Impact: Staff workload is drastically reduced, evidence is more accurate, and we protect our precious cognitive energy for meaningful human interaction with our learners.

Crucially, this completely removes the barrier of typing—a transformative shift for dyslexic and dyspraxic professionals. But the true magic happens when we place this technology directly into the hands of our young people.

In my classroom, the heartbreaking phrase "When I can’t write it" has officially been replaced by the triumphant declaration, *"I just published an article!"* We use secure AI workflows to help learners generate functional CVs and job applications verbally, eliminating the dreaded "blank page syndrome." The young man who once sat in a dark room, convinced he was utterly worthless, is now a TechAbility Champion, an ambassador for Dyslexic Mum, and a national voice for inclusive technology.

At the end of March, I contributed to the NatSpec quality times Bridging the gap: how contextualised AI is humanising quality assurance in SEND, of which I received positive feedback. Just last month, in April 2026, I achieved the "Safe and Effective Use of AI in Education" certification from the Chartered College of Teaching. I pursued this because, for our SEND learners, generative AI cannot just be a toy; it must be a fiercely protected, safely implemented bridge to a more equitable world.

The Equilibrium of Independence

I still have difficult days. The shadows of anxiety occasionally return, and the punishing spectre of my perfectionist mindset sometimes tries to rear its head when I am striving to plan the perfect lesson. I still have to actively manage my own energy and executive function.

But I am no longer that monkey trapped by the rice. I have learned to let go. I use the digital tools available to me, and I fiercely teach my students to do the exact same thing, prioritising their independence, digital wellbeing, and resilience over the illusion of flawlessness.

If you are facing an invisible barrier, struggling with the crushing weight of academic pressure, or wrestling with a toxic drive for perfection, please know with absolute certainty that you are not alone. There is a path forward out of the dark, and it does not require you to be flawless.

Strive for progress, not perfection.

“This text was conceived and directed by a human, using Voice-to-Text and AI assistance to overcome a dyslexia induced literacy barrier.”

The Alignment of the Stars: Momentum, Practical Learning, and the Power of Partnership

Introduction: The Systems of a Successful Week

In my previous life as an academic natural scientist, I spent years studying systems. I looked at the profound, invisible feedback loops that govern our planet—the delicate exchange of carbon between soil, plants, and the atmosphere. I tracked greenhouse gas emissions, bored into peat bogs, sampled permafrost, and used radiocarbon dating to understand how small changes in one variable could trigger massive, systemic shifts.

When I transitioned into Special Educational Needs and Disabilities (SEND) teaching here in Stoke-on-Trent, I realized that education is no different. A school is a complex ecosystem. Some weeks, the variables clash, the climate is turbulent, and you are simply managing the friction. But other weeks, the variables align. The stars, so to speak, fall into place.

This week was one of those rare, beautiful alignments. From high-impact workshops and curriculum milestones to successful external networking, every component of our system functioned at peak efficiency.

As a dyslexic and dyspraxic educator, managing this "cognitive marathon" is always a balancing act. When fatigue sets in, my brain likes to play tricks on me—I will read an entire page of a curriculum brief and absorb absolutely zero information, or I’ll completely mix up small words like *is* and *are*. But when a week moves with this kind of positive momentum, the cognitive load feels lighter. Resilience, as Ernest Shackleton so famously demonstrated during his polar expeditions, is built on forward momentum and structural endurance.

Here is how the ecosystem of our week thrived, broken down through the lens of a pragmatic scientist.

The Chemistry of Partnership: The Intuition School Workshop

The undeniable highlight of the week was welcoming a group of learners from Intuition School to our vocational print shop for an intensive creative workshop.

From a pedagogical perspective, the visit was an unqualified success. We designed the session to be a holistic introduction to a real-world working environment. We began with a full tour of the facilities, treating the learners not just as visitors, but as incoming trainees. We demystified the print process, breaking it down into distinct, logical stages—a systems-based approach that helps neurodivergent minds map out tasks sequentially.

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[Design Input] ➔ [Pre-Press Setup] ➔ [Production/Sublimation] ➔ [Quality Control] ➔ [Tangible Output]

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Naturally, we heavily emphasised health and safety considerations. In a working print shop, spatial awareness and hazard recognition are vital. For students with diverse learning needs, these aren't just rules; they are essential life skills. Throughout the day, we explicitly highlighted the soft skills required to thrive in a commercial environment: meticulous attention to detail, robust workplace organization, and collaborative teamwork.

Moving from Theory to Concrete Artifacts

The true breakthrough of the session occurred when theory transitioned into tangible reality. The learners had brought their own pre-made designs with them. We helped them transfer these designs onto physical products, including custom mugs and various merchandise.

In psychology and education, this is known as the "IKEA effect"—a cognitive bias in which consumers place a disproportionately high value on products they partially created. For a SEND learner, seeing a digital image they drew transformed into a glossy, professional mug they can hold in their hands provides an unparalleled sense of ownership and achievement. It bridges the gap between abstract concept and physical reality.

The feedback was overwhelmingly positive. The learners were buzzing, and the accompanying staff—including the Deputy Headteacher—were incredibly impressed by the level of engagement. This wasn't a standalone event; it was the second workshop we have delivered together this year. We are already in discussions to expand this into a permanent partnership, increasing the frequency of visits and broadening the product range.

The Data Behind Work-Based Learning

As a scientist, I don't just rely on good feelings; I look at the data. Research consistently shows that contextualized, hands-on learning is vastly superior for students who struggle with traditional, text-heavy academic routes. According to data from the UK Department for Education (DfE) on vocational pathways, technical and practical training significantly boosts confidence, improves retention rates, and fosters a genuine sense of purpose among learners with EHCPs (Education, Health, and Care Plans). By bypassing the "cognitive marathon" of traditional textbook learning, we unlock these students' true potential.

## Micro-Wins and Momentum: From Customer Service to Network Capital

A successful educational ecosystem relies on smaller feedback loops working correctly. The week actually began on a high note on Monday morning. I watched our student coaching team display exceptional customer service when a local lady walked into our enterprise space. The team navigated the social interaction beautifully, managed the point-of-sale system, and closed a sale on the till. For a student practicing independent living skills, a successful retail transaction is a massive victory in communication and numeracy.

Later that day, I attended a TechAbility meeting. TechAbility (an initiative by Natspec and Kartouche) focuses on improving Assistive Technology provision for learners with SEND. This meeting was a fantastic opportunity for professional networking, allowing me to share resources with colleagues across the sector.

I was also able to contribute directly to another TechAbility Champion session. It is always rewarding to give back to the professional community, and frankly, it provides fantastic evidence of external impact for my own professional portfolio.

Even when real-world variables intervened—like a frustrating car delay on Wednesday morning—the structural systems we put in place ensured the day wasn't derailed. I arrived, stepped into the print shop, and we delivered the Intuition School workshop without missing a beat. Resilience is all about handling the unexpected variables.

Closing the Loop: Curriculum Accreditations and the Reverse Job Fair

As we approach the final term of the academic year, the pressure to finalize qualifications naturally intensifies. In our ICT department, we are coming to the end of the NCFE course utilizing our Workbooks curriculum.

I am incredibly pleased to report that we are completely on track. During an extremely focused and productive lesson this week, our students buckled down and knocked out several key learning objectives, bringing the entire cohort incredibly close to the finish line.

Simultaneously, we kicked off our preparation for an incredibly exciting event happening this coming Monday: our Reverse Job Fair.

Flipping the Employability Model

For those unfamiliar with the concept, a Reverse Job Fair flips the traditional employment model on its head. Instead of employers sitting at tables while anxious students line up to hand over CVs (a format that severely disadvantages individuals with communication difficulties, dyspraxia, or high anxiety), the students set up exhibition booths. They showcase their portfolios, their physical products, their skills, and their personality. The employers walk the room, visiting the students.

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Traditional Fair: [Employer sits at table] ➔ [Anxious Student queues with CV] ➔ High Stress

Reverse Fair: [Student sets up booth/portfolio] ➔ [Employer visits student] ➔ Low Stress

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To support this initiative and generate revenue for our enterprise, we have started preparing and production on our college leavers' hoodies, alongside merchandise for other local colleges. It is going to be an incredibly busy, high-output summer term, but the systems are robust, and the students are ready.

Reflections on the Lesson Observation: The Anatomy of a Starter

On Thursday, I underwent a formal lesson observation. In modern teaching, observations focus heavily on specific instructional design principles: the logical sequencing of lessons, the strategic deployment of Teaching Assistants (TAs), and robust retrieval practice.

For my starter activity, I ran a Kahoot quiz centered on a design brief I had issued the previous week.

Why Retrieval Practice Matters

1. Interrupts the forgetting curve

2. Identifies conceptual gaps early

3. Lowers cognitive load for the main task

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From a scientific standpoint, I chose this because retrieval practice is essential for interrupting the forgetting curve. However, from a pragmatic teacher's standpoint, I ran it because I had a sneaking suspicion that some students hadn't fully absorbed or understood the design brief when it was first introduced.

When you have a classroom of diverse learners, you cannot assume that exposure equals comprehension. The quiz acted as a diagnostic tool, allowing me to check for understanding before we advanced to production. While I haven't received the formal feedback from the observer yet, the diagnostic data from the quiz allowed us to pivot smoothly into a super-productive afternoon of ticking off accreditation paperwork.

Conclusion: Driving the System Forward

This week was a testament to what happens when we view education through an analytical, pragmatic, and empathetic lens. When we remove traditional barriers to literacy and communication—whether that is by using assistive technology, creating tactile printing opportunities, or flipping the script on how students meet employers—we allow neurodivergent minds to shine.

We have built a fantastic momentum this week across our print shop, our ICT courses, and our community partnerships. The bogs are draining, the permafrost is melting, and the educational environment we are cultivating here in Stoke-on-Trent is absolutely thriving. Let's carry this energy into the Reverse Job Fair on Monday and finish the academic year stronger than ever.

This text was conceived and directed by a human, using Voice-to-Text and AI assistance to overcome a dyslexia induced literacy barrier.

Striking the Digital Balance: Why We Need to Rethink Screen Time, Not Just Ban It

If you have an Android phone, there’s a handy little feature tucked away in your settings called 'Digital Wellbeing'. It gives you a stark, unvarnished gauge of exactly how much of your life is being spent staring at a screen.

Recently, I’ve been making a conscious, concerted effort to cut my daily screen time down. I checked it the other evening, and I can proudly say that by 8:00 PM, I was sitting at just 1 hour and 46 minutes. What’s more, a massive proportion of that time was purely practical: using Waze for the commute and listening to YouTube Music on the drive.

It felt like a small victory. But it also got me thinking about the wider picture, especially when it comes to the next generation.

The Consumption Crisis

When you look at the digital habits of some young people today, the numbers are genuinely terrifying. It’s not uncommon to find teenagers regularly clocking in eight or nine hours of screen time a day.

Now, don't get me wrong—I am very pro-technology. I use my phone constantly to navigate the world, whether that’s getting around places, doing the online shopping, or managing my banking. The device itself isn't the enemy; the issue is the *consumption*.

Specifically, it's the endless, mindless consumption of short-form videos on platforms like TikTok and Snapchat. We aren't just guessing about the impact of this anymore. There is a growing mountain of evidence showing the profound effect this has on cognitive attention spans and mental health. A recent study by King's College London, for instance, highlighted that heavy smartphone use in adolescents is strongly linked to increased anxiety, disrupted sleep, and poorer mental wellbeing. We are raising a generation whose dopamine receptors are being hijacked by algorithms.

The Pragmatic View on Phone Bans

This brings us to the inevitable debate: should we just ban them?

To some extent, I completely understand the advocates for a blanket school phone ban. I really do. When you see the distraction and the distress these devices can cause, eradication feels like the safest route.

But I’m also a pragmatist. I look at the incredible benefits these devices offer, particularly when we talk about 'Preparation for Adulthood'. For many young people, a smartphone is a lifeline. It’s how they learn to navigate public transport safely, manage their finances, and organise their independent lives. Stripping that tool away entirely feels incredibly short-sighted.

Education Over Eradication

The key, as with most things in life, is finding the right balance.

We shouldn't just be snatching devices out of hands; we need to be actively educating our young people to use their devices smartly and intentionally. We must be having open, honest conversations with them, alerting them to the very real dangers of passive digital consumption.

Technology isn't going anywhere. Our job isn't to pretend the digital world doesn't exist, but to teach the next generation how to swim in it without drowning.

*“This text was conceived and directed by a human, using Voice-to-Text and AI assistance to overcome a dyslexia induced literacy barrier.”*